The Unpreached Mother’s Day Sermon

I don’t envy preachers who deliver Mother’s Day sermons. Armed with only the Bible, second-hand knowledge and personal experience, preachers must address women whose experiences with motherhood are as diverse as each woman. Imagine looking out and trying to bring an encouraging and inspired message to these women.

I am not a pastor, but I beg you to listen. I’ve learned that MANY women avoid church on Mother’s Day and I want you to know why and what the Bible says about it. Women cry out to the Lord on behalf of their children throughout the Bible and we would be wise to listen. The joy of the gospel is the rescue from sin– the true pain of suffering and hopelessness yields an indescribable triumph. Seeing things that were broken and destroyed fully restored is the story of Christ, but also of motherhood.

Perhaps we should begin with the famous Barren Mothers, Hannah, Rachel, Elizabeth… in each account only a few verses capture the searing pain and grief of these women. 1 Samuel’s account is that faithful Hannah, harassed and belittled in her barrenness, was so distressed that she cried aloud at the temple before the Lord. The priest, so unfamiliar with her expression of grief before the Lord, mistook her for a drunk. Thankfully, her pain lasts for several verses, only to show that her faith is rewarded by God who gives her Samuel, the son she prayed for. What a relief that her pain and weeping can be met with an answer of God’s purpose– except for the women who remain barren, of course. There aren’t many verses to address that directly. I always treasure the verse that says she made him an outfit when she visited him yearly. What an emotion-packed verse.

God CARES about the pain he is allowing. It seems counter-intuitive and leaves women who love and serve Jesus asking why God is silent. 15 verses in Psalm, Isaiah, Jeremiah, and Micah all describe the terror of overthrown cities and suffering as “the pangs of a woman in labor”. We all smile and joke about Eve’s curse of increased pain during childbirth, but a God who created the womb and feels a mother’s anguish gave these words to us. I especially enjoy Isaiah 45:10– the verse for all parents weary of answering ‘boy or girl’? “Woe to him who says to a father, ‘What are you begetting?’or to a woman, ‘With what are you in labor?’” Whip that response out in the supermarket, Ladies.

Mentions of barrenness, a baby smothered during sleep, children suddenly dead from fevers or illness, women left destitute from the loss of sons– the Bible is full of mothers who are grieving. Scores of women brought their sick, dying and even dead children to Christ, desperate for healing. Jesus’ own mother was often in distress in the Biblical account, and she was mothering a literally perfect child. Consider also that Mary’s other sons did not believe in Jesus– James is not a follower of Christ until after the resurrection! The mother of rebellious children may connect with that. The women you are preaching to are in or have felt searing pain and indescribably joy. There is nothing like it. Christ even recognizes the difficulty of mothers who are nursing or pregnant when the Last Days come.

This Mother’s Day Sunday, these women need to know their righteousness is not reflected by their wombs. I too have sat in a pew holding a child that was nothing like my expectations. Grateful and frustrated, it is difficult to believe that Jesus would work it out for my good when I felt abandoned and alone– and guilty for it because of the beautiful, struggling child who needed me. I’ve had to grapple with knowing God especially ordained William’s Trisomy 21 for a great purpose and that Jesus was near to me– it didn’t feel that way. It was hard to pray sometimes. I sobbed in the shower for days. I grew weary of trying to help him breathe or forcing food into his mouth with syringes, unaware of the leukemia riddling his body. Before my glimpses of God’s hand on my motherhood, there was great pain mixed with the expectation. I discovered that I truly believe what I believed because of the trials and pain I endured– which is a great treasure of faith. What demonstrated Christ to me was the hundreds of people who bore the burden and loved us with the gospel every day. People in pain need to know they are not alone.

Each Mother’s Day I call Kristen. I text her before the sermon to remind her that she is loved and that it is okay if she leaves the sanctuary. After the sermon I call her to listen and love her with my silence.

Kristen and Michael have 8 children. 5 of then are not longer living. For five years she has gone to church of Mother’s Day and silently let her heart break while listening to scripture about the Proverbs 31 “Ruby Standard”, Jesus’ mother Mary, Eve or maybe even Hannah. One Mother’s Day, only weeks after giving birth to another dead child, she ran out of the pew crying. She was desperate to genuinely cry out before the Lord in her pain without receiving stares or unwise comments, like Hannah. Worse, she now must hold her beautiful 2 year old son and try to explain that a ‘Miracle Baby’ doesn’t replace the flooding pain of those lives lost. Interestingly, someone else in the Bible was not granted the joy of children because of the unique calling from God– Jesus. His entire brood is adopted; through the giving of himself He claimed his children. The very sacrificing of self is what mothering and sanctification is about. We are His children instead- and what a mess we are.

Mothers read the Bible differently. We consider how it would feel to be unable to feed our children, like Elijah’s widow, or to put Moses in a basket, hoping he would live. It’s hard not to be enraged when Lot offers his daughters to be raped or when David didn’t react to the rape of Tamar. Every mother knows the meaning of “Mary pondered these things in her heart.” I submit to you that the women around Jesus were some of his earliest followers to comprehend His word meaning and to serve him well. As He died, Jesus made sure His grieving mother would be cared for by a follower. The Church would do well to follow His example. May we all share in the joy of rebirth, new beginnings, great victories, and triumph over death.

May Sunday be a joyful and triumphant Mother’s Day, for he will wipe our tears and redeem our losses. Lost lives will be restored. Jesus will reign and all of it will make perfect sense. Until then, we love you, Ladies. May we all mother well in our own way.

To Kristen, with Love.


One thought on “The Unpreached Mother’s Day Sermon

  1. “People in pain need to know that they are not alone”………….words that just say it all and blessed are those who helped share the burden with you………… and what kindness you give to the grieving mother who has lost 5 children, the pain she feels I have known 2 times………may God’s blessings overflow for your thoughtfulness even when you yourself have gone through much turmoil caring for your precious William ……….. it is OK to cry, to run, to wail even as we call out to God for help and know that our God doesn’t look at us as “what in the heck is wrong with her” as unfortunately, others around may do.

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